So, I told you yesterday there were a few guys I was talking to through match. A few has now turned into 5. Not because I meant to though! My online dating strategy is as follows: I talk to no more than 3 guys at once (if it's more than 3 then I feel like I need a spreadsheet to keep them straight and that's just not fun). Ideally, it's 2 at a time. I've learned with this online dating thing it's normal practice to respond to email 24-48 hours later. I mean, please. You're apparently considered desperate if you respond to an email within the first 12 hours of someone sending it. The way I was raised, that's considered rude but what the hell do I know. Sometimes I abide by this ridiculous rule, others times I say 'screw the damn rules'. Anyway, because it can be a slow process, talking to 2-3 at one time isn't so overwhelming. So I talk to 2-3, meet them, find out we aren't soul mates, then it's on to the next 2-3 guys. I'm kidding by the way about the soul mates thing...I don't put too much pressure on these dates. But seriously, if we meet and I (or sometimes they) figure out it's probably not going to work then it's on to the next. I mean why waste valuable time here. Online dating is much like sales...if it's obvious you aren't going to close the deal, cut the client loose and move on. And keep the funnel full...don't put all your eggs in one basket...insert another cliche statement here. As always, if someone else out there seems to have a better idea to tackle the online dating thing, by all means, tell me. What really screws things up is when you have 3 guys and then by some magical grace of god, you actually meet someone in real life you'd maybe like to get to know. That throws the whole strategy out the window. And when I say "magical Grace of god", I'm not kidding. Being 33 and single isn't easy. It can definitely be fun, I won't deny that. But dating at 33...not so much.
That said, I was suppose to meet someone for drinks this evening but apparently he's tied up at work (whatever). Instead I'm now meeting a few single girlfriends and we will surely raise some hell. He wants to go out Saturday night. That's against my personal rules (first dates don't get weekends). But ya know what, I might just screw that rule because I'm child free Sat night and have yet to make plans. What the hell...might as well live on the edge right?
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